>>25328
Vanity or immodesty are a prerequisite to romantic love. From a male point of view, men care about your fertility and not your feelings, as the norm rather than the exception. Visual appearance is a clue to that fertility. If you're ugly, whether it is anybody's fault or not, your list of potential suitors goes down. So women focus on vanity naturally, and it's kind of our fault.
Meanwhile women have a more obvious or direct degradation mechanic to me. They will sit at a bar imagining or mentally cucking you. I barely understand the dynamic, but by point of comparison I ought to try looking like a better protector and a better provider, in the way of physical or social muscle or throw some cash around. On the quiet I only care about these things to be more useful to others, but when dating it helps that you can flex immodestly.
If you confuse Eros for Philio, or Agape and you're not careful to cross the beams then you'll be deemed to "catch feelings" and dropped for being a man with desperate vibes, or for being emotionally needy. You basically have to love conditionally, or at the very least form an omission of the truth if it isn't.
Further still, if you consider being kicked out of the garden of Eden as being given exactly the kind of environment you need or maybe even asked for as a species because you all wanted to understand truth by having some frame of reference (I realise may not be canon to scripture),
then why subject humanity to it all in this exact way? There are fish that throw their seed into a big pod and the point of immodest comparison is that of surviving just to get there. It's as if we need extra opportunities to sin for some reason, because we're self-aware and know what we're doing.